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Dating after losing a partner 2 months 3 days ago #3313136

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To be honest, your heart has to be in it, you have to be interested in meeting someone else, if you are not interested,don’t do it, no one is forcing you to do anything you are uncomfortable with.
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Dating after losing a partner 1 month 3 weeks ago #3318758

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I think, if I lost my hubby, that is it for me, but I said that after my first marriage ended in divorce, and got married again.:unsure:

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Dating after losing a partner 1 month 2 weeks ago #3322690

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Ive been on my own for 14 yrs but recently have started thinking there may be a gentle start for me here.

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Dating after losing a partner 1 month 2 weeks ago #3322692

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There’s no right or wrong rule . You will know when the times right for you.
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Dating after losing a partner 1 month 2 weeks ago #3323100

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Serena77 wrote: I did not contemplate dating for a long time after my husband's death. Besides that, personally I had enough on my plate with parental responsibility. My suggestion is to NOT date or make any important decisions for at least the first year. There is a sense of vulnerability in the first year especially where you can make rash judgements based on the emptiness you feel. Might make a huge error in trying to fulfill that need. Take your time.

I know a few people who married again within a year of being widowed, two were divorced again within a few years, another is about to celebrate their 25th anniversary. So no hard and fast rule, but in general I would agree that making any sort of major decision in the first year can be a mistake.

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Dating after losing a partner 1 month 2 weeks ago #3323101

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I was divorced so not the same, but my wife was widowed after twenty years of marriage - they were still very much in love.

She says that she always knew that she could cope on her own but is happier in a couple. After about a year she joined a social group, to get out of the house and fill her evenings not to date. After a couple of years she went on a couple of dates but found it very strange. We met about 3 years after his death but it was another year before we went on a "date", we had become friends through the social group. For her it was a feeling that she would look for someone in the future but she needed to mourn properly, adjust to being a singleton and re-evaluate her life aims first. Don't forget that the widowed person has not only lost their partner, they have lost their future - so many plans as to what retirement etc will bring now no longer will happen.

Each person is different, there is no universal "right" time, accept that we all make mistakes and be prepared to re-think and step back if it feels wrong.
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When the time is right,that person will know

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