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life exciting - scary 2 months 4 weeks ago #3243068

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Meeooow wrote:

sciguy18 wrote:

Meeooow wrote: I think it's called "between a rock and a hard place," ... I have been a real full blown recluse for 25 years, only


I suspect you are not alone in those feelings...


Millions upon millions out there, wonder if there is a club for recluses?


its a sad thought really we are all different and cope with different things in different ways , I prob would not of said this much if I wasn't hid behind a mask . but I do my best to keep the mug half full not half empty . and I shouldn't grumble im luckier than most I have a roof a bed and food on the table and a car and I do get out twice a week
but tjere have been moments that I would not wish on anyone . we have one life we want it to be happy , calm , I want to be a nice person that people like , etc etc etc but the world can be a cruel place , us big strong men with broad shoulders can take the world on and never cry lol yeah right , there is a saying or I once heard a saying ' you complete me ' I think that has more power and strength than any one single human being . ramble over

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life exciting - scary 2 months 4 weeks ago #3243073

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Lonewolf65 wrote:

Meeooow wrote:

sciguy18 wrote:

Meeooow wrote: I think it's called "between a rock and a hard place," ... I have been a real full blown recluse for 25 years, only


I suspect you are not alone in those feelings...


Millions upon millions out there, wonder if there is a club for recluses?



its a sad thought really we are all different and cope with different things in different ways , I prob would not of said this much if I wasn't hid behind a mask . but I do my best to keep the mug half full not half empty . and I shouldn't grumble im luckier than most I have a roof a bed and food on the table and a car and I do get out twice a week
but tjere have been moments that I would not wish on anyone . we have one life we want it to be happy , calm , I want to be a nice person that people like , etc etc etc but the world can be a cruel place , us big strong men with broad shoulders can take the world on and never cry lol yeah right , there is a saying or I once heard a saying ' you complete me ' I think that has more power and strength than any one single human being . ramble over



Anyway, I once saw a quote “folks are usually about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” I'll go with that.

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life exciting - scary 2 months 4 weeks ago #3243184

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Meeooow wrote:

sciguy18 wrote:

Meeooow wrote: I think it's called "between a rock and a hard place," ... I have been a real full blown recluse for 25 years, only


I suspect you are not alone in those feelings...


Millions upon millions out there, wonder if there is a club for recluses?


There may be such s club, but I imagine nobody would ever attend the meetings...

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life exciting - scary 2 months 4 weeks ago #3243190

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sciguy18 wrote:

Meeooow wrote:

sciguy18 wrote:

Meeooow wrote: I think it's called "between a rock and a hard place," ... I have been a real full blown recluse for 25 years, only


I suspect you are not alone in those feelings...


Millions upon millions out there, wonder if there is a club for recluses?



There may be such s club, but I imagine nobody would ever attend the meetings...


Ha ha ha, so true!

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Music was my refuge.
I could crawl into the
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and curl my back to
the loneliness.

Maya Angelou.

life exciting - scary 2 months 4 weeks ago #3243220

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I agree. Times like Christmas on your own must be depressing. Mind you, you can eat what you want and the t.v remote is yours.
I guess you could always volunteer to help people less well off than yourself at that time of year?

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life exciting - scary 2 months 3 weeks ago #3243548

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Meeooow wrote:

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Meeooow wrote: I think it's called "between a rock and a hard place," ... I have been a real full blown recluse for 25 years, only emerging to chat to people on line and to join a line dancing club. I eat out alone, movies alone, everything alone. There are exceptional circumstances when family visits or outings alleviate the mushroom -like existence. Don't do dating sites so never get to meet anyone.I don't know if I would want to live with someone after being on my own for so long, the thought of being in close proximity for any length of time would cause me to run. As my habits and way of living are ingrained, to have to give over the remote control and most of my time, would be a huge thing.Whist I love my aloneness, (my cocoon is filled with everything I like)... being on one ones own has its drawbacks. Conversation is the main thing, nobody to bounce your ideas and theories off. Creating wonderful meals with nobody to share it with. ( No... not breaking down and sobbing!) I find I feel more alone when I go out than I do when indoors. Everybody is with somebody.The ideal solution would be to live separately from your "other" and share lots of time together, who knows your "other" may become so familiar that you would consider sharing.I don't mean to sound as if I am a Debbie Downer, actually quite happy in my cocoon. But I would like to hang on to someones arm now and then.
Blimey, is this me exposing my vulnerability?

Worry NOT >> Sharing emotions, saying as one finds on site such as B50.
Exposes NO 'Enactable Vunuralbilies'.
It simply indicates, that although we may live alone, without physical exchanges with another. One is seen as no different to a large proportion of society.
One would only be Vulnerable.By example. If >>
A reader in Ulaanbaatar were to jump out of the screen and grab you. :laugh:
Its not going to happen. B)

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life exciting - scary 2 months 3 weeks ago #3243558

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Don't seem to sound as if I am a Debbie Downer, actually quite happy in my cocoon. But I would like to hang on to someones arm now and then.
Blimey, is this me exposing my vulnerability?[/quote]
Worry NOT >> Sharing emotions, saying as one finds on site such as B50.
Exposes NO 'Enactable Vunuralbilies'.
It simply indicates, that although we may live alone, without physical exchanges with another. One is seen as no different to a large proportion of society.
One would only be Vulnerable.By example. If >>
A reader in Ulaanbaatar were to jump out of the screen and grab you. :laugh:
Its not going to happen. B)

.[/quote]


Very difficult for an Empires child to ease out of the corset and allow such a thing as emotion or vulnerability to be shown ad hoc.
Quite cathartic.
Mingling with the rest of the population means fending off comments about my "prison pallor" with a swift blow with my brolly.
I thank Buzz members for their warmth.
That bloke from Ulaanbaatar...has no way of grabbing me through the screen, I have Kapersky....by the way!
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Music was my refuge.
I could crawl into the
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Maya Angelou.

life exciting - scary 2 months 3 weeks ago #3245813

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Lonewolf65 wrote: what is the worst ...the fear of meeting someone or the fear of spending the rest of your life alone
tough one yes ….

I for one find both scary






For a person who lives on their own, they could spend time with family and friends, if they don’t have family and friends,which many people don’t,
Volunteer,do voluntary work,something that could help that person fill spare time and help them to make friends.
As for Christmas, if they are alone,they could volunteer at a centre feeding homeless people,
Life doesn’t have to be down because a person lives alone.

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life exciting - scary 2 months 2 weeks ago #3249842

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I'm equally happy meeting people and with being in my own company. What's there to be scared of? Note I said "in my own company" and not "alone" because to me a little welcome solitude does not mean I am alone. You have to be prepared to get out there and meet the world half-way, because it isn't going to walk up to your door and knock on it. You either do that or you don't, and the choice is ultimately yours.
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life exciting - scary 2 months 1 week ago #3256690

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I'm finding dating in real life daunting. The country I live in has an attitude towards widows which makes me shudder. Firstly the older male population here tend to believe that a "good catch" is a woman 20 or so years younger than him. The other school of thought by men is to find a woman so they have someone to cook, clean and look after them in old age. Having approached a few men of a similar age I got the brush off because I was "too old". I shall stick to socialising online for now.

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