Every super good looking guy (like, model looking) that has ever messaged me (on DATING sites, not here on Buzz50) I knew was a fake..and a quick search of his pictures on a couple scam reporting sites confirms this...

I know we have discussed this before, but, I *still* don't understand how anyone who doesn't have issues (a touch of drmrntia/ alzheimers) can even begin to be fooled by someone super good looking, in another country (or the other side of *this* country) who right aways acts so super interested, when they don;t know ANYTHING about you yet..
Anyone who messages me from the other side of this country or another country is immediately assumed to be a scammer.
I mean, seriously...of ALL the women in your counrty..or in your state you found NO ONE.....and therefore needed to search 1500+km away??
Really?
And *I* meet all your criteria...even thought you can't tell me one thing about what I wrote on my profile/ we share in common except you liked it all??

How do people fall for this crap?

*IF* some legitimate guy messaged me from overseas, or the other side of the country...he'd better prove to me right quick he is a real person, not just another scammer...and he best not get an attitude about it either.
If he does, that's generally a red flag..as someone who is real, legit, and on the level would understand a woman's skeptisism/ concerns.
I also tell them right away I do not fly, and don't drive long distances to meet anyone....so, they'll have to do all the traveling *here*, and no, I have no money for a plane ticket or whatever...you want to get here..you do it on your OWN dime.......
That usually gets rid of the more tenacious ones that yammer on about how "distance is not object for trooooo luuuuuv"....:silly:

Sooo true, I hate the guys that send you a one liner, Hello Dear....That is a total turn off for me and I do not respond. I do have a issue, I thought this buzz site was for all countries, I can't seem to get into the USA site. I try and then I read the profile of someone who looks interesting and only wants friends, no love interest, and I still get Germany,Austria, England...what the heck am I doing wrong. Me

damzil wrote: Sooo true, I hate the guys that send you a one liner, Hello Dear....That is a total turn off for me and I do not respond. I do have a issue, I thought this buzz site was for all countries, I can't seem to get into the USA site. I try and then I read the profile of someone who looks interesting and only wants friends, no love interest, and I still get Germany,Austria, England...what the heck am I doing wrong. Me

Buzz50 is an International social, friendship site.

Perhaps you need the Dating site?

buzz50.co.uk/?utm_source=com&utm_medium=...campaign=middle-link

Pats wrote:

damzil wrote: Sooo true, I hate the guys that send you a one liner, Hello Dear....That is a total turn off for me and I do not respond. I do have a issue, I thought this buzz site was for all countries, I can't seem to get into the USA site. I try and then I read the profile of someone who looks interesting and only wants friends, no love interest, and I still get Germany,Austria, England...what the heck am I doing wrong. Me

Buzz50 is an International social, friendship site.

Perhaps you need the Dating site?

buzz50.co.uk/?utm_source=com&utm_medium=...campaign=middle-link

Nah.....I don't want "friends"/ pen pals in other countries that I will never meet (I do NOT fly)..I have enough of those.
I want to find people in my own country...people who I actualy have a chance of meeting at some point..

Plus, having joined several "pay" dating sites in the past...I saw the same guys on those (not scammers, i actually messaged them and they were real) that I saw on the pay sites, and sorry..i am not paying for the privilege of being ignored

mike wrote: Here are some Romance Scammers tips and warnings
If you can suggest any more then please reply to this topic and we will add them

1. Romance scammers usually target people older than themselves
2. Their photo often looks too good and has sometimes been stolen from and used elsewhere on the internet. Try right clicking on it in Google Chrome or try www.tineye.com/
3. They are away at the moment working but will be returning soon
4. They supply an email address, phone number or other contact method oon into the relationship
5. Their language/grammar seems unusual; this can indicate a foreigner trying to imimtate somebody of your own nationality
6. They over-compliment you in their first message
7. They try to escalate your relationship unusually quickly
8. They are on their way to see you or do something important and an unfortunate circunstance occurs. This is often when they will ask for money.
9. They have a sob story that they tell you about early on.
10. They take their profile down quickly and ask you to contact them a different way. This is common as romance scammers are often quickly spotted and they want to 'hook' you quickly.

Please report any suspect romance scammers with the *REPORT* menu item top right of every page or the button below. We will be very diplomatic treat your report in confidence.

This thread was so helpful...thank you!

My experience in dealing with romance scammers and scammers, in general, has taught me some valuable lessons. And I can say that trusting your heart and using some common sense will protect you. I disagree with the comment made about not trusting a person because they pay someone a compliment. I enjoy very much telling a lady that she is attractive or has good lovely qualities. For me, the red flags come out, and this is usually the case with telling a sob story. I have learned that this is true in the everyday world as it is in the digital world.
I always suggest to fellow chatters and friends to always read between the lines in such situations. Not everything glitters is gold.
Most important though regardless of which site a person chooses to chat on, never reveal personal info. And as a few here have said at the mere mention of money, Red Flag and report to the site admins.

very rarely I reply to a message from an unknown member , yes it’s unfriendly.
Staying with forum regulars much safer.

I understand how people might join a friendship site hoping that they might find love ... might be too scared of dating sites, can't afford the fees, are open to love but not looking for it etc .... BUT it annoys me when people use friendship sites as dating sites because they are too mean or lazy to join dating sites.

I don't get how scammers would think they'll be successful on friendship sites but they are also used by people who are actively seeking dates but sort of hide it.

That also feels a bit like scamming .. especially when they say they are looking for friends but aren't even remotely friendly !!

Rips wrote: very rarely I reply to a message from an unknown member , yes it’s unfriendly.
Staying with forum regulars much safer.

Ms..Rips, I would say it leans more to being cautious / self preservation than being "unfriendly". The best way to stop anything, is to not let it get started. I will respond to most any message, but if it is not just a friendly message, I'll cut them off like a rotten limb.