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dealing with the loneliness of ur deceased spouse 6 months 1 week ago #3830489

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my gal has been gone19 months now .we were both health active individuals and she died in a trajic ATV rollover accident while we were at the ranch.. my church sent me to grief class and soon after I joined the lake area senior singles group which helps alot ..but at home alone I am sad and tend to eat for comfort which is affecting my health as now days i am over weight . I still exercise daily and eat correctly (just to much) my singles activities keep me from sitting home 24/7 but I want to know what ur doing to keep going?
I want to be in a relationship but its so hard now days .. everybody is a train wreck..(my self included)
suggestions?
there she is on the atv that killed her
I fear I will become a crotchety old man

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dealing with the loneliness of ur deceased spouse 6 months 1 week ago #3830498

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Get involved with people that do what you like to do be selfish. There are so many looking just like we are, I shoot in matches and fish weekly and have met so many addicted just like myself with similar interests as I have, honestly, I feel there are so many in this state of life it is much easier to meet others than when younger. I have been very fortunate to do so and could just about either fish or shoot daily if I chose to. Being a very outgoing and forward personality helps a lot. There are a lot of real duds also out there. I met my best friend now a neighbor by making a comment about dusty/dirty boots at a truck stop getting fuel.
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Schöne Dinge passieren in Ihrem Leben, wenn Sie sich distanzieren und negative Dinge und Menschen entfernen.
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dealing with the loneliness of ur deceased spouse 6 months 1 week ago #3830631

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My condolences for your loss. May I suggest that before you get into another relationship, you ensure that your have grieved. It's been only a year and six months--not that long to recover from such a loss.

You're doing all the right stuff--getting out, meeting people--staying active. Time--give yourself some time. Maybe try something you have never done before--it will occupy your mind in a way that doing the familiar doesn't.

It sounds as though you have a good support group....so it's one foot in front of the other. And some days will just be awful. And other days will be okay. And then one day, it will be wonderful to feel the air, bask in the sun and take joy in friends.
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dealing with the loneliness of ur deceased spouse 6 months 2 days ago #3833536

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Well It has been one year since my husband passed away and to top it off I fought for my life for 2.5 months in the hospital with covid pneumonia during the holidays last year. I tell you this just to say, get up every morning, be thankful for every breath you can take, and enjoy the sunshine and people around you
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dealing with the loneliness of ur deceased spouse 5 months 3 weeks ago #3836341

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I'm not religious in any way (the lyrics in the song match to some degree why) and I don't really think there's an afterlife, but this song comforted me when I recently lost someone of great importance to me. It expresses a beautiful sentiment that might possibly comfort people who posted in here, as in when my time comes, I'll follow... I know what you are going through and feel for you all.

I'll follow you
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dealing with the loneliness of ur deceased spouse 5 months 3 weeks ago #3836348

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" The more you Loved". "The more you Grieve".
In mutual Love. Your dear departed, would never wish you to grieve.
Just hold on to the wonderful memories shared. And share them with others,
"Until we Rejoin".
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dealing with the loneliness of ur deceased spouse 1 month 3 weeks ago #3881410

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my husband died 3 weeks ago today. my heart is broken. he was my soulmate for over 50 years. l have his ashes with me but l so miss him. what do l do now? l am disabled and housebound, so getting out is not an option for me. l have no-one around except my sister who has been my rock since Del was first taken ill and literally pushed me to do the necessary, but she works and lives in London and l can't keep calling on her everytime. l am scared of being on my own. l have continous feeling of dread. experience has shown that once you become old and decrepid no one wants to know.

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dealing with the loneliness of ur deceased spouse 1 month 1 week ago #3885236

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Let me tell you my true story - I was divorced - late I wrote to Saga magazine ` reader`s page `.
I met a lady who - later I found out - her husband had died two before we met - We wrote to
each other - for some time - then she invited me - to meet her - in her home town.
I did not know this London town - So I bought a rail ticket to the place she suggested.
I returned the next day - & waited at the shop entrance - people come & went when then this tall lady
in a green leather short coat - appeared - round the corner - I thought - I wish this was her - & it
was - She held her hand out - "you must be --- ".- then she suggested " a coffee " near by -
We spent 22 happy years together - we were in our sixties - when we met - the lady died
at 90 - eleven years ago - The punch line - she said " It was either you - or the Butcher....
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MAGPIE.-- the bird

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man of kent wrote: Let me tell you my true story - I was divorced - late I wrote to Saga magazine ` reader`s page `.
I met a lady who - later I found out - her husband had died two before we met - We wrote to
each other - for some time - then she invited me - to meet her - in her home town.
I did not know this London town - So I bought a rail ticket to the place she suggested.
I returned the next day - & waited at the shop entrance - people come & went when then this tall lady
in a green leather short coat - appeared - round the corner - I thought - I wish this was her - & it
was - She held her hand out - "you must be --- ".- then she suggested " a coffee " near by -
We spent 22 happy years together - we were in our sixties - when we met - the lady died
at 90 - eleven years ago - The punch line - she said " It was either you - or the Butcher....

Snap Ditto.^5.
Saga Zone was my SM. Home also, almost since day one.
Well remember our first meet. Her sister came with her & concealed herself behind a flower garden.
Gave me the once over. Got the seal of approval. :laugh:
Saga Cruises and many happy years & miles together, with the lady met there.
Alas now past.

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dealing with the loneliness of ur deceased spouse 1 month 1 week ago #3885312

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For lonely and elderly in the UK

Older people and their families can call Age UK Advice for free on 0800 169 65 65 to find out how the Age UK network can help someone who may be feeling lonely.

www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/heal...ellbeing/loneliness/


Loneliness

Most of us will feel lonely at some point in our lives. For a lot of us, particularly those in later life, loneliness can define our lives and have a significant impact on our wellbeing. But we can help you feel less alone. 

www.ageuk.org.uk/services/befriending-services/


Friendship services

At Age UK, one of the ways we try to combat loneliness in later life is through our friendship services. We offer 2 different types:


Telephone friendship

Age UK and our partner charity The Silver Line offer free telephone friendship services so you can enjoy chatting with someone over the phone, all from the comfort of your own home.

Whether you’d like to speak to someone every week, or just want to talk when the need strikes, we’re here to help.

Find out more


Face-to-face befriending

Befriending services are available at many local Age UKs. They will often involve a volunteer befriender visiting an older person in their home, perhaps for a cup of tea and a chat, or accompanying them to an activity (such as a trip to a cafe or the theatre). In some cases, a volunteer may accompany the older person to occasional hospital or doctor's appointments.
Contact your local Age UK to find out about their befriending services

There is a box here to put in your post code to find services near you

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