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TOPIC: Why do we feel alone?

Why do we feel alone? 2 months 3 weeks ago #3282979

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There was a time I felt Loneliness as equivalent to be a victim trapped in lifetime prison sentence with no chance of parole. Today I have tools to combat loneliness. It’s didn’t happen overnight, but continues to be a journey realizing Im responsible for my own happiness. A journey learning to unconditionally accept myself including all my faults, quirks imperfections can begin to unlocking the emptiness of being alone, aka the key to learning self love.

Part of that journey is like spring clean up getting rid of junk making space for this new way of interpreting life. That cleaning process was learning not only to recognize self defeating, self sabotaging behaviors but breaking the cycle was like breaking a bad habit. Lots of self encouragement, self forgiveness and self compassion. Below is the tool I use to recognize when I need a little remodeling, lol

When I find myself in a rut, I’m reminded of the analogy of “The hole in the sidewalk”

CHAPTER ONE
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost …. I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

CHAPTER TWO
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend that I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in this same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

CHAPTER THREE
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit … but, my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

CHAPTER FOUR
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it
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CHAPTER FIVE
I walk down another street.
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Why do we feel alone? 2 months 3 weeks ago #3282992

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We feel alone because we are alone .. that’s why making the most of life ,family and friends is important.
If you allow yourself to sit waiting for that knock on the door you will be lonely
It must be very difficult if you’re home bound .
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