I certainly understand how everyone who has posted feels. I lost my husband 5 years ago to melanoma and I wish it had been me instead of him. The family either thinks Im over it or an coping fine but in reality it gets worse. I would like to have a friend but I just cant seem to get motivated to go out and meet people. Hence joining this site. And the first thing I add sound like a winge. But life will go on and we will all go along with it.

you'll have lots of friends on here jacquie. have no fear of that!
so sorry to hear of your sad loss.

jacquie wrote: I certainly understand how everyone who has posted feels. I lost my husband 5 years ago to melanoma and I wish it had been me instead of him. The family either thinks Im over it or an coping fine but in reality it gets worse. I would like to have a friend but I just cant seem to get motivated to go out and meet people. Hence joining this site. And the first thing I add sound like a winge. But life will go on and we will all go along with it.

I know exactly how you feel jacquie, family have their own lives and get on with it, we however struggle to fill that empty space in our lives. ((hugs))

Although not as traumatic as the loss of a spouse due to death, the dissolution of a marriage and the years of loneliness that can follow in its wake can make it seem as if a suffocating blanket of silence has fallen over your life. And if that isn't a depressing string of words I don't know what is. But when all is said and done, life somehow goes on.

Come September the passing of my beloved hubby will be 10yrs. I do voluntary work to keep busy and do visiting people back from hospital. I go to bed late so I don't have to think or let my brain work.

i lost mine a year ago. on june 6th just gone.... hate these dates that come around like this..

This Sept 9th will all be the 10th year of my late husband’s passing. It doesn’t seem that long ago.
Sending A hug to you both Afi and Bessie.

After the (initial grieve),because it doesn't go away,loneliness is a killer.Coming up for the 4th anniversary of my husbands sudden death,i have got stronger,and managed to do things i didn't know i could.....just out of sheer stubbornness not to ask anyone.Plus this lock down and shielding has made the loneliness even more acute.

Hello I lost my husband 2yrs and 7 long months ago. I thought it was the end of my life but I found out that I was still alive and had to find a new normal life for myself. Its the hardest thing I have ever done. I am so lonely and lost without him. I tried to post a few minutes ago and it gave me a error sign hope this one goes through. I just wanted to introduce my self Sisey

hello sisey. welcome to the forum. so sorry to hear this. come here, we'll cheer you up. i know what your going through, i lost mine a year ago! but buzz has helped me a lot to cope. there's errors on and off all the time, you get used to them after a while.