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TOPIC: Widowhood and loneliness

Widowhood and loneliness 3 months 4 weeks ago #3418031

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I certainly understand how everyone who has posted feels. I lost my husband 5 years ago to melanoma and I wish it had been me instead of him. The family either thinks Im over it or an coping fine but in reality it gets worse. I would like to have a friend but I just cant seem to get motivated to go out and meet people. Hence joining this site. And the first thing I add sound like a winge. But life will go on and we will all go along with it.
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Widowhood and loneliness 3 months 4 weeks ago #3418054

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you'll have lots of friends on here jacquie. have no fear of that! smile.png
so sorry to hear of your sad loss. :xxx: :(
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Widowhood and loneliness 3 months 3 weeks ago #3418086

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jacquie wrote: I certainly understand how everyone who has posted feels. I lost my husband 5 years ago to melanoma and I wish it had been me instead of him. The family either thinks Im over it or an coping fine but in reality it gets worse. I would like to have a friend but I just cant seem to get motivated to go out and meet people. Hence joining this site. And the first thing I add sound like a winge. But life will go on and we will all go along with it.


I know exactly how you feel jacquie, family have their own lives and get on with it, we however struggle to fill that empty space in our lives. ((hugs))

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Widowhood and loneliness 1 month 4 weeks ago #3456469

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Although not as traumatic as the loss of a spouse due to death, the dissolution of a marriage and the years of loneliness that can follow in its wake can make it seem as if a suffocating blanket of silence has fallen over your life. And if that isn't a depressing string of words I don't know what is. But when all is said and done, life somehow goes on.
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Widowhood and loneliness 1 month 3 weeks ago #3459031

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Come September the passing of my beloved hubby will be 10yrs. I do voluntary work to keep busy and do visiting people back from hospital. I go to bed late so I don't have to think or let my brain work.
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Widowhood and loneliness 3 weeks 2 days ago #3477822

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i lost mine a year ago. on june 6th just gone.... hate these dates that come around like this.. :(
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Widowhood and loneliness 3 weeks 2 days ago #3477951

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This Sept 9th will all be the 10th year of my late husband’s passing. It doesn’t seem that long ago.
Sending A hug to you both Afi and Bessie.
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Widowhood and loneliness 3 weeks 1 day ago #3478048

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After the (initial grieve),because it doesn't go away,loneliness is a killer.Coming up for the 4th anniversary of my husbands sudden death,i have got stronger,and managed to do things i didn't know i could.....just out of sheer stubbornness not to ask anyone.Plus this lock down and shielding has made the loneliness even more acute.
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Widowhood and loneliness 3 weeks 1 day ago #3478530

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Hello I lost my husband 2yrs and 7 long months ago. I thought it was the end of my life but I found out that I was still alive and had to find a new normal life for myself. Its the hardest thing I have ever done. I am so lonely and lost without him. I tried to post a few minutes ago and it gave me a error sign hope this one goes through. I just wanted to introduce my self Sisey
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Widowhood and loneliness 3 weeks 1 day ago #3478561

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hello sisey. welcome to the forum. so sorry to hear this. come here, we'll cheer you up. i know what your going through, i lost mine a year ago! but buzz has helped me a lot to cope. there's errors on and off all the time, you get used to them after a while. smile.png
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