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Are you able to understand the reason(s) you are not in a Relationship? 1 week 4 days ago #3428708

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There are plenty of people who have never had a long term relationship and the reasons are as varied as the number of different flowers in the world.
Personally I know why I have never sort a long term relationship.
I am not emotionally stable enough and it would be unfair of me to attempt having a partner.
Having been alone since the age of 24 there is no way that I could handle living/being with someone.
I am not someone who needs or even wants someone there beside me all the time.
I would very quickly go crazy and run away to the solitude of the Australian bush.
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Are you able to understand the reason(s) you are not in a Relationship? 1 week 4 days ago #3428749

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Everyone is different,
I have a friend,a beautiful lady,she is independent,has her own house and her own car,she works,very friendly,very happy,but chooses not to be in a relationship,she actually likes her own company.
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Are you able to understand the reason(s) you are not in a Relationship? 1 week 4 days ago #3428751

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I don't think you want a relationship and you are talking yourself out of it. If you don't want one then accept it. People have relationships even if they are 'flawed.' You think anyone else does not share your 'shortcomings?'
Hell, I'm bipolar and I married my current wife before I got the diagnosis. I'm sure I was a pain in the ass. Over the years I learned not to beat myself up so much.
A relationship is not all physical attraction of course. You develop a friendship and like friends you support each other. A marriage is more intimate but you get more slack! (;;) smile.png
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“Someone has said that it requires less mental effort to condemn than to think.”

Are you able to understand the reason(s) you are not in a Relationship? 1 week 4 days ago #3428752

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JUJO wrote: Everyone is different,
I have a friend,a beautiful lady,she is independent,has her own house and her own car,she works,very friendly,very happy,but chooses not to be in a relationship,she actually likes her own company.


Sounds like you're trying to set him up. :laugh: wink.png :ohmy: :laugh:
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“Someone has said that it requires less mental effort to condemn than to think.”

Are you able to understand the reason(s) you are not in a Relationship? 1 week 3 days ago #3428825

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Bretrick wrote: There are plenty of people who have never had a long term relationship and the reasons are as varied as the number of different flowers in the world.
Personally I know why I have never sort a long term relationship.
I am not emotionally stable enough and it would be unfair of me to attempt having a partner.
Having been alone since the age of 24 there is no way that I could handle living/being with someone.
I am not someone who needs or even wants someone there beside me all the time.
I would very quickly go crazy and run away to the solitude of the Australian bush.


...I totally agree with you. I think there are going to be quite a few people who realise their relationship is NOT working after what's happening now around the world and having to be together 24/7. Everybody needs to be alone (I know I do BIG TIME) have their own space for at least a good few hrs each day. My brother and sister live on their own and my sister has had more boyfriends than old nick but she prefers to be alone - my brother hmm dunno, he's just liked to be by himself since we were kids..
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Are you able to understand the reason(s) you are not in a Relationship? 1 week 3 days ago #3428826

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JUJO wrote: Everyone is different,
I have a friend,a beautiful lady,she is independent,has her own house and her own car,she works,very friendly,very happy,but chooses not to be in a relationship,she actually likes her own company.


Sounds like you're trying to set him up. :laugh: wink.png :ohmy: :laugh:


...EXACTLY like my sister...
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Are you able to understand the reason(s) you are not in a Relationship? 1 week 3 days ago #3428830

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Yes I do, I dont want another relationship and have them die and have to go through that trauma again.
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I think, if you have enough inner resources, then you can live in isolation for long periods of time and not feel diminished by it.

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Are you able to understand the reason(s) you are not in a Relationship? 1 week 3 days ago #3428873

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Depends on what type of relationship we are talking about. Have been in a relationship with several people over the years, some are still active up to a point and others are not. Each relationship is a new experience and most of us learn from our experiences.
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Are you able to understand the reason(s) you are not in a Relationship? 1 week 3 days ago #3428889

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Bretrick wrote: There are plenty of people who have never had a long term relationship and the reasons are as varied as the number of different flowers in the world.
Personally I know why I have never sort a long term relationship.
I am not emotionally stable enough and it would be unfair of me to attempt having a partner.
Having been alone since the age of 24 there is no way that I could handle living/being with someone.
I am not someone who needs or even wants someone there beside me all the time.
I would very quickly go crazy and run away to the solitude of the Australian bush.

That sounds like fun except I think it’s too hot out there for me. I head to the mountains and my property for solitude.
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God Bless Murica!

Are you able to understand the reason(s) you are not in a Relationship? 1 week 3 days ago #3428981

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altshovel wrote:

JUJO wrote: Everyone is different,
I have a friend,a beautiful lady,she is independent,has her own house and her own car,she works,very friendly,very happy,but chooses not to be in a relationship,she actually likes her own company.


Sounds like you're trying to set him up. :laugh: wink.png :ohmy: :laugh:








Oh no, definitely not,my friend is super happy on her own.
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